What to read next as recommended by our therapists - Come As You Are by Emily Nagasoki
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
Every household where a woman lives, or a daughter grows up needs this book on their bookshelf! As women, we have absorbed eons of misinformation regarding our own sexuality and Emily Nagoski has made it her mission to bust these myths we have been taught.
Emily addresses misconceptions such as: “Men’s sexuality is simple, and women’s sexuality is complex. Women don’t have as strong a sex drive as men. Orgasm is central to a positive sexual encounter. Sex is more emotional for women than for men.” (p. 300).
She also addresses the effects of stress, trauma and attachment styles on we experience our sexuality as well as the cultural messages we have absorbed about either being “too sexual” or “not sexual enough.”
“On the day you’re born, you’re given a little plot of rich fertile soil, slightly different from everyone else’s. And right away your family and your culture start to plant things and tend the garden for you, until you’re old enough to take over its care yourself. Some of us get lucky with our land and what gets planted. We have healthy and thriving gardens from the earliest moments of our awareness. And some of us get stuck with some pretty toxic crap in our gardens, and we’re left with the task of uprooting all the junk and replacing it with something healthier, something we choose for ourselves.” (p. 39).
If your sexual garden needs some tending, this book’s for you!
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Christi Gadd | Clinical Psychologist | Neuropsychologist
Christi Gadd is a Clinical Psychologist and Neuropsychologist practising from the Satori Health Centre. She practices in Garsfontein, Pretoria East, South Africa and online.
She has a special interest in the human brain and the way in which it regulates our behaviour and in turn our relationships. She provides psychotherapy to assist a person and their family in adjusting to the impact of brain injury or illness as well as assessments of the extent and intricacy of the injury. She also provides general psychotherapy to individuals and families.
Her services are available in English and Afrikaans.